44 DAYS to go:
Some thoughts on the spousal relationship:
I love to write. I am so grateful that I'm able to do what I love, and I get to do it for a living. In John Gardner's On Becoming a Novelist, he mentions that if at all possible, a budding novelist should marry someone who can support him or her. For obvious reasons. He notes too that love, for obvious reasons, is also pretty darn important. I might add that writers need to marry folks who are tolerant of their bizarre needs to write and research at odd hours. And if the novelist is like me, the spouse has to endure hours and days of, "Let me read you this one thing..." or "Can you read this for me?" And when the first draft is years later complete, and the writer (me) says, " What do you think? I mean, what do you think of the whole thing?" the poor spouse has to somehow relay that he can't see the forest for the trees because his relationship with the words/story has been about as rationally sensibly narrative as listening to a three year old tell a story.
It's HARD to get published! No matter how talented a writer you are, it's a laborious process of querying agents, waiting for responses, sending out chapters and pages, and starting the process all over again. It takes patience, perseverance and faith. Mind you, these are traits that no matter who you are, tend to falter. Just the same, whenever possible: Have faith. Believe in your words. Persevere.